Good Day and welcome to day 6 of the challenge
Over the last five post, I've written from my experience and frustration on how the decline of parental discipline has affected the classroom. That is not to say that all parents fall short, or all teachers are doing their best. I, we know there are great parents and teachers in the world doing remarkably well.
My desire is to put into the hands of struggling parents, resources that could possibly help bring some level of peace to their household.
I would like to share with you a book by Dr. James Dobson, "The Strong Willed Child." This book helped me survived my strong-willed child years ago. The book speaks of battles you may encounter with your little one and how to enter, avoid, and win those battles. Click on the link below for more information on the family.
http://drjamesdobson.org/Solid-Answers/Category?c=8f97d4b8-9863-4791-913f-7954309c4d89
Carolyn Denise
Carolyn Denise is a freelance writer, author, public speaker, mentor, and well known for her live conversations with parents and conferences for singles, "My Beloved and My Basket."
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Monday, November 23, 2015
Saturday, November 21, 2015
Parental help is available!
Five days in
Today is my 5th post of the 30-day challenge.
My desire is to get parents and educators back on the same page and end the war, "parents vs. teachers" while children remain uneducated laughing all the way to Dumbville. Once the level of respect returns between the two entities and children, understand the strength of such a merger, foolish is bound to decrease.
I am working towards a master's in social and community services where I'm trained to create community forums, activities etc. that will rebuild our communities. I run a successful mentoring center and enjoy working with the children in our community. However one of those outreaches will be to teach our children to respect authority, however, authority, we have to live in a matter worthy of respect.
Today is my 5th post of the 30-day challenge.
My desire is to get parents and educators back on the same page and end the war, "parents vs. teachers" while children remain uneducated laughing all the way to Dumbville. Once the level of respect returns between the two entities and children, understand the strength of such a merger, foolish is bound to decrease.
I am working towards a master's in social and community services where I'm trained to create community forums, activities etc. that will rebuild our communities. I run a successful mentoring center and enjoy working with the children in our community. However one of those outreaches will be to teach our children to respect authority, however, authority, we have to live in a matter worthy of respect.
Job Posting Title
UNIFORMED SECURITY OFCR - 0296026UNIFORMED SECURITY OFCR 2015-2016
I copied the advertised link above from the website of one of our county school districts. The ad as you can read is for a uniformed officer at a middle school (11-13-year-olds). If we train, govern, parent, whole accountable and discipline our children in their early years, we will not need uniformed security over them as preteens.
Parents we have to return to the land of common sense understanding that discipline and correction of negative behavior all start at home with the parent(s). My desire is to begin offering strategies that will help parents get back on track when it comes to loving their children via correction.
Parents, with tears in their eyes and or in the midst of a full cry, are calling me or stopping me and saying about their 8, 9, 10, or older child, "I just don't know what to do." One mom told me, "Just call the police, I don't know what else to do."
Parents, I know you are frustrated, and I am lining events up as one of the resources available for you and desirings to make a difference in your families and our communities.
Carolyn Denise
Discipline and Education the intelligent twins
Post #4 of the 30-day blog post challenge
An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.
----Benjamin Franklin
Discipline and education are partners in success. Training provides the framework for education. Discipline, (a pop on the hand, butt, or even tough talks) was removed from school instructors and placed wholly in the hands of the parents.
At one point, parents, if called, would make their way to the school and pop a butt if informed of a problem. That too has been eliminated. I have heard parents verbally admit they fear having their child removed from their custody if corporal discipline is applied.
Teachers fear the possibility losing their license if any disciplinary action is made aware of by authorities any form. As a consequence of all of this adult fear (parents and teachers), children are left to run both the home and classroom.
The most significant adults in the lives of a child are too fearful to administer the correction and guidance each child needs. Now we have kids telling parents to “shut the hell up” and teachers going to school and leaving with broken arms. I mean really how stupid have we become? Yes, I said it “STUPID.”
At one point, parents, if called, would make their way to the school and pop a butt if informed of a problem. That too has been eliminated. I have heard parents verbally admit they fear having their child removed from their custody if corporal discipline is applied.
Teachers fear the possibility losing their license if any disciplinary action is made aware of by authorities any form. As a consequence of all of this adult fear (parents and teachers), children are left to run both the home and classroom.
The most significant adults in the lives of a child are too fearful to administer the correction and guidance each child needs. Now we have kids telling parents to “shut the hell up” and teachers going to school and leaving with broken arms. I mean really how stupid have we become? Yes, I said it “STUPID.”
Children need correction, guidance, structure, love, care, discipline, (and at times a pop on the bottom or a pop in the flip mouth). My sister is still alive and well even though she had her mouth washed out with soap.
I do not believe our children should be scarred from beatings as if a slave. However I have no problem with a couple of licks in the hand, on the butt or a pop in the mouth if that mouth gets to flipped.
Before you jump on the bandwagon of “not believing in butt popping” Spend your next week of vacation in a public or charter school and see how bad it has become. We, the adults, have to go now back and regain all of the authority and power we foolishly relinquished to children.
Fear is a destructive evil anything ruled by fear, be it our education system or parenting, will eventually collapse. Love does conquer all. LOVE CORRECTS, LOVE CORRECTS, you discipline those you love.
I do not believe our children should be scarred from beatings as if a slave. However I have no problem with a couple of licks in the hand, on the butt or a pop in the mouth if that mouth gets to flipped.
Before you jump on the bandwagon of “not believing in butt popping” Spend your next week of vacation in a public or charter school and see how bad it has become. We, the adults, have to go now back and regain all of the authority and power we foolishly relinquished to children.
Fear is a destructive evil anything ruled by fear, be it our education system or parenting, will eventually collapse. Love does conquer all. LOVE CORRECTS, LOVE CORRECTS, you discipline those you love.
Carolyn Denise
Timeout for Timeout Parenting!
Good Day,
This is my third post of the 30-day challenge and though the challenge itself is challenging, I am finding the writing therapeutic and eye opening. The clarity of my purpose is becoming clearer, and I feel the hairs on my arms rise as I speak of my purpose. My heart is committed to helping parents with their children and win back our communities. Parents are crying because they are unaware of how to handle 3 and 4-year-old children. A number of the books from supposedly experts in the field have failed.
We've tried the "Timeout" methods and have been left with a generation of children/adult friends, instead of parental/child relationships. I have a question for you, Are you celebrating/rewarding/giving in to bad/wrong/disrespectful behavior?
We've tried the "Timeout" methods and have been left with a generation of children/adult friends, instead of parental/child relationships. I have a question for you, Are you celebrating/rewarding/giving in to bad/wrong/disrespectful behavior?
Carolyn Denise
Wednesday, November 18, 2015
The Challenge Continues
Welcome to day two of the 30-day blog challenge.
Again, thank you for your support and for following me on this journey.
The second grader, I spoke of in my previous blog ( day 1 of the challenge) is now 18 and has been in and out of jail. Was he destined for jail when created or had the adults failed him?
How is it possible for a child to misbehave in school, disrespect parents and teachers, bring home a report card glistering with "D's and F's" and yet, received 3-7 hundred dollars worth Christmas gifts?
When did we start rewarding foolish behavior? Why are parents refusing to parent and electing to be their child's friend?
My Twenty-nine-year-old stated, "Mom why do we get along so well now? We fought all the time when I was a teen." I reminded him of my new role now that he is an adult.
As a child, it was not my job to be his friend but his parent.
Now that we are both adults, I am more of his advisor and friend. Forever his Momma, but he is grown now and the choices are his to make.
Underaged individuals need parents, they have more than enough friends. Are you up for the challenge of parenting your child(ren)? Or have you punked out and decided to just be their "yes" friend? Where do you stand?
Carolyn Denise
Again, thank you for your support and for following me on this journey.
The second grader, I spoke of in my previous blog ( day 1 of the challenge) is now 18 and has been in and out of jail. Was he destined for jail when created or had the adults failed him?
How is it possible for a child to misbehave in school, disrespect parents and teachers, bring home a report card glistering with "D's and F's" and yet, received 3-7 hundred dollars worth Christmas gifts?
When did we start rewarding foolish behavior? Why are parents refusing to parent and electing to be their child's friend?
My Twenty-nine-year-old stated, "Mom why do we get along so well now? We fought all the time when I was a teen." I reminded him of my new role now that he is an adult.
As a child, it was not my job to be his friend but his parent.
Now that we are both adults, I am more of his advisor and friend. Forever his Momma, but he is grown now and the choices are his to make.
Underaged individuals need parents, they have more than enough friends. Are you up for the challenge of parenting your child(ren)? Or have you punked out and decided to just be their "yes" friend? Where do you stand?
Carolyn Denise
Blog Contest!
Good Morning Everyone,
My blog is taking on a new direction, I am part of a blogging challenge that is designed to help me become a proficient blogger. Please stay with me and share my post on all of your social media outlets. Grow with me.
Each day I will find the time to write and develop my skills. I will write what I am most passionate about, parents and students, in other words, family.
Born in the sixties, raised in the seventies I find myself embarrassed at how far parental/child relationship has declined.
As a child, I found myself begging my teacher not to call my mom. My teacher and I came up with a mutual agreement, she wouldn't inform my mom of my behavior, and I would not be a problem for the remainder of the year. She, my teacher, and I both kept our agreement.
As a teacher, I informed my 2nd-grade student I was going to contact his mom concerning his behavior. The 2nd grader wrote his mother's number down on a piece of paper handed the paper to me, leaned back in his chair and placed his crossed legs on top of the desk.
Before I continue with this true example of a classroom experience, I want to hear from you.
Where do you believe parents have dropped the ball?
Why do you believe calling parents no longer carry the weight of yesterday?
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Carolyn Denise
My blog is taking on a new direction, I am part of a blogging challenge that is designed to help me become a proficient blogger. Please stay with me and share my post on all of your social media outlets. Grow with me.
Each day I will find the time to write and develop my skills. I will write what I am most passionate about, parents and students, in other words, family.
Born in the sixties, raised in the seventies I find myself embarrassed at how far parental/child relationship has declined.
As a child, I found myself begging my teacher not to call my mom. My teacher and I came up with a mutual agreement, she wouldn't inform my mom of my behavior, and I would not be a problem for the remainder of the year. She, my teacher, and I both kept our agreement.
As a teacher, I informed my 2nd-grade student I was going to contact his mom concerning his behavior. The 2nd grader wrote his mother's number down on a piece of paper handed the paper to me, leaned back in his chair and placed his crossed legs on top of the desk.
Before I continue with this true example of a classroom experience, I want to hear from you.
Where do you believe parents have dropped the ball?
Why do you believe calling parents no longer carry the weight of yesterday?
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Carolyn Denise
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